Recognising a problem
The following are some signs that might alert you that someone you know may be affected by domestic and family violence:
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They may have bruises or injuries or has frequent "accidents" for which they gives vague explanations. These "accidents" sometimes cause them to miss work.
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Their partner controls all aspects of their life - finances, friends, social life, what they wear, who they see and speak to.
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They frequently cancel plans at the last minute giving short notice or vague excuses
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They seem afraid of making their partner angry or need to constantly 'keep the peace'.
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The partner ridicules them publicly or you sense volatility in their comments.
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The partner seems overly attentive, remains constantly by their side or is watchful about who they talk to.
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The partner may be overly possessive or jealous
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Their children seem fearful or on edge in the partner's company or at the mention of their name
It won't "just go away". Taking action is the only thing that will stop it. It is common to feel unsure about the best things to say and do, but you should never feel too scared to say something.
Whether you know for sure or just have a ‘gut feeling’ that someone you know is being subjected to Domestic or Family Violence – your support can make all the difference.
Common attitudes about Domestic Violence
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It's none of my business
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If they wanted my help, they'd ask
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Maybe they're provoking their partner
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If it's that bad, why don't they just leave?
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I know them and really don't think they'd hurt anyone
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What about the kids?
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How can they still care for them?